Self-love is a hot topic in media these days, but sometimes it’s hard to go from disliking what you see in the mirror to immediately falling in love with yourself. If you’re still struggling with self-acceptance, here are a few tips to get you started on your journey to finding a better relationship with your physical self:
Understand and Question
The very first step is to understand why you feel the way you do about your physical self. (Tip: this usually has absolutely nothing to do with how you actually look). Start delving a little deeper and question why you believe certain physiques are better than others – this is often due to how our family perceive people who look different, or those who are considered to be too thin or overweight. What content are you consuming that dictates what body type is “good enough”? Are your friends and family making negative comments about how people look or what they eat?
Take time to discover if this is how you also feel – and why. Are these thoughts truly valid? Does one person really deserve to feel inferior purely because of how they look? Once we start to question how we perceive bodies, we can start to change our minds and how we feel about ourselves and others that share our space.
If you don’t have it in you just yet to be positive about yourself, start with being neutral. Remove negativity from words such as “fat” or “cellulite”, try be un-opinionated when you look at your body. Don’t focus on aspects that you dislike. Notice them, and move on. See your cellulite or your wiggly bits as you would see a fingernail or a little freckle- it’s there, but it doesn’t make you less valuable than someone without them. Once we start removing negative attachments to our physical selves, we can start healing. Eventually you will get to a point where you can be nice to yourself and start to love what you once thought as flaws.
It’s so easy to get caught up in comparison and negative self-talk that we often don’t take a second to sit back and be grateful for what our bodies do for us every day. Yes you might be tired, but your body is working really hard to let you do everything you do in a day. Be grateful for what your body allows you to do and try not to focus just on what it looks like. Your legs might be a little lumpier than you would like, but they let you go for walks on the beach or run every now and again or get to work on time. Thank your body for everything it does for you, it’s doing the best it can!
It’s not just a journey, it’s a Roller coaster
There are still going to be days when you don’t feel great about how you look. There are going to be days where you could hug yourself! The key, as always, is consistency. Be a little nicer to yourself on the bad days, keep yourself in check and constantly re-evaluate why you feel what you feel and keep moving forward. A little practice every day will eventually lead to a time where you treat yourself and your body with kindness and respect, and that’s beautiful!
Any thoughts? Leave any comments or tips you have for self-love in the comments!